Transforming Your Life One Small Choice at a Time

The English poet John Dryden once said, “We first make our habits, then our habits make us.” The actions we perform without even thinking shape our lives in significant ways. Whether it’s the habit of rising early for a workout or the habit of endlessly scrolling through social media, these behaviors define us more than we realize. While we often believe we’re in control, it’s our habits—both good and bad—that steer our lives.

Consider your morning routine. If you start your day by hitting the snooze button multiple times, rushing through breakfast (if you have it at all), and frantically checking emails before you’re fully awake, it might seem harmless. However, over time, this chaotic start becomes a habit that influences your entire day. It affects how you handle stress, productivity, and self-care. Contrast this with someone who wakes up early, drinks a glass of water, stretches, or meditates, and enjoys breakfast. The difference extends beyond the morning—it impacts how each person experiences their entire day and, ultimately, their life.

When it comes to health and longevity, the small habits we cultivate daily add up. Simple choices like taking the stairs instead of the elevator or cooking at home instead of ordering takeout may seem insignificant on any given day. However, over months and years, these choices become the habits that define your physical well-being. Regular physical activity, even in small amounts, can significantly improve overall health and fitness. Similarly, mindful eating habits contribute to better nutrition and long-term health.

Dryden’s quote also speaks to how habits shape our mindset. Often, people have goals they aspire to achieve, such as starting a business or learning a new skill, but they may struggle to act. It’s not a lack of desire—it’s the habit of always “planning” without doing that holds them back. Small, proactive habits can shift our mindset from passive to empowered. Dedicating just a short amount of time each day to a goal can gradually build momentum and lead to significant progress.

Psychologically, habits also influence our self-perception. If someone habitually avoids the challenges that life offers, they may start to believe they’re incapable of overcoming obstacles or that life is unfair—even when that’s not true. Conversely, developing the habit of facing challenges, even in small ways, can build confidence and resilience. Over time, this rewires our belief in our abilities and helps us see ourselves as capable of tackling difficult tasks.

Ultimately, we are the product of our repeated actions. The beauty of Dryden’s quote is that it reminds us we’re not stuck where we are. While our habits have shaped us, we have the power to shape new habits. It starts with small choices—whether it’s taking the first step toward a healthier lifestyle, setting aside time for a passion project, doing that thing you have been avoiding, or simply deciding to be kinder to yourself. The habits we create today will define who we become tomorrow.

So, if you want to change your life, start by changing your habits.

Until next time,
Scott and Lennart