Be Kind and Useful, and the World Will Reward You

Many of us have heard similar advice from our parents or older relatives at some point. It's a simple yet profound principle that has stood the test of time, and we believe it holds an often-overlooked truth worth exploring.

Recently, we were inspired by observing a family dynamic where two sons-in-law stood out—one favored, the other not so much. While family dynamics and favoritism can be complex topics on their own, in this article, we want to shed light on the personality traits of these two individuals and how they can be applied in a more general setting.

The first son-in-law embodies kindness and a can-do attitude. He's skilled at fixing and building things, always willing to lend a helping hand, and exudes a positive and enjoyable presence. On the other hand, the second son-in-law lacks the same practical skill set, tends to see the glass as perpetually half-empty, and feels compelled to share his pessimistic observations with those around him.

It's often said that one of a parent's most crucial roles is to socialize their children from a young age. Proper socialization, we believe, is a key element to making the world a more pleasant place that garners respect and goodwill from our peers. It equips us with the social skills, empathy, and emotional intelligence needed to connect with people on a deeper level. It teaches us to respect boundaries, communicate effectively, and build meaningful relationships. Without a doubt, proper socialization is the foundation for a life without unnecessary struggles.

However, being socially adept alone may not suffice to truly thrive in the world. Consider it as the key to opening the door, but to step inside and make the most of the opportunities within, one must be useful. Usefulness comes in many forms, and it's a quality that not only benefits us but also those around us.

Being useful is like possessing a Swiss Army knife of skills and abilities, ready to tackle various challenges that life throws our way. It's the electrician who fixes a power outage during a storm, the friend who offers a shoulder to lean on in times of crisis, the mentor who guides someone toward a brighter future, or the volunteer who dedicates time to a cause they're passionate about.

The great thing about usefulness is its versatility. It doesn't prescribe a one-size-fits-all approach—rather, it invites each of us to identify our unique talents, interests, and passions and use them to make a positive impact. Whether it's through your profession, a hobby, or acts of kindness, finding your niche of usefulness can be profoundly rewarding.

To be genuinely useful, however, requires more than just good intentions. It demands a can-do attitude—a willingness to roll up your sleeves and take action when needed. It means having the initiative to learn, grow, and acquire the skills necessary to effect positive change. It's not about having all the answers, but about being willing to seek solutions and adapt to evolving circumstances.

In essence, the combination of socialization and usefulness creates a powerful synergy that allows us to not only navigate the world successfully but also leave a lasting and positive imprint. It's not merely about being kind or being skilled—it's about leveraging both to forge a path of fulfillment, growth, and impact.

So, try to be the useful and pleasant son-in-law—it’s a truly win-win scenario.

Until next time

Scott and Lennart     

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